Talking Domestic Violence with WDIA’s Bev Johnson

Bev Johnson and Joyce Kyles

I had the wonderful privilege to be a guest on WDIA’s Bev Johnson Show. One of the things that I appreciate most about this experience is the way that Ms. Johnson allowed us to speak openly and freely about domestic violence. It wasn’t a sugar coated interview, meaning, it wasn’t one filled with standard questions and feel good answers. We talked about my life, my experiences as a victim and how those experiences have impacted my life as a survivor and advocate.

I appreciate those that called in and shared their stories and asked some rather in depth questions. A couple of them were a bit harder to answer than others, only because I am human, and while I am comfortable with my decision to discuss this subject and my experiences in particular, it can still be touch a spot that still holds some hurt, embarrassment and yes, sometimes even anger. Nonetheless, every question and comment was addressed with honesty and transparency. It also provided some great topics of discussion for future blogs.

What I gathered from the the interview is that 1, there are a lot of people in this city, both male and female that are hurting as a result of domestic violence on some level; 2, I realize now more than ever that I am not alone in my experiences; 3, Walking Into A New Life, Inc. is moving in the right direction with its mission statement to stop domestic violence and help stabilize victims using education and microenterprise development; and 4, I know that people love and respect me for who I am and what I’m doing. When I started this journey, I was very reluctant to share many parts of myself because while many people speculated, not everyone knew the depths of my hurt, my embarrassment, my like of resources or self esteem. What I’ve found is love, refuge, kindness and respect. I’ve been called brave, motivational and inspiring; all words that I would not have even fathomed people using to describe me a few years ago. What I truly am is humbled, grateful and encouraged. I have learned so much from so many, with my children being at the top of the list. I am inspired by their resiliency, despite all we’ve been through, and it makes me proud.

Again, it is truly an honor to have been on Ms. Johnson’s show today. Kudos to her for wanting to address this issue in such a candid and professional way.

 

Listen to interview here

Celebrating 1yr of Pamper & Support Day with The Circle of Inspiration

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WIANL, Inc., in collaboration with The Circle of Inspiration, celebrated it’s 1yr anniversary of Pamper and Support Day on Saturday, February 9, 2013. Victims, survivors and advocates all enjoyed an afternoon of open, honest discussion about domestic violence, where we are in our walk and goals for healing and positive transition. In addition to the normal support group session, attendees participated in a symbolic balloon release at the conclusion of the event, having written on the balloons all of the negative/hurting/things that we wanted to ‘release’ from our lives.

After the balloon release, participants were able to partake of various foods and beverages and given Mary Kay gift bags. They were led to a separate room where stations of clothes, shoes, accessories and toiletries were available for them to take home. Haircare products, diapers and baby wipes were also available.

Pamper and Support Day was established a year ago in an effort to give victims and survivors an opportunity to relax, share experiences and be catered to, and to receive tangible basic necessities so often needed when dealing with domestic violence. Many times, victims are encouraged to leave, but not given the tools needed to do so. Pamper and Support Day is our way of providing some relief to the emotional and financial struggles that victims and survivors often face when making decisions about their situation and their ability to transition from victim to victorious.

 

National Coalition of 100 Black Women, Inc – Memphis Chapter

I’ve have the pleasure of serving as Co-Chair for the Young Women of Excellence program for which I’ve been an adult presenter as well as a presenter for the young ladies. Their ages ranged from 12 to 18. It is extremely important reach our young people at an early age. It is my belief that if we can inform them of the information early enough, we may be able to stop them from becoming a victim of teen dating violence and rape. They will know how to better help themselves and their peers should an incident arise.