2019 is in full swing. Where are you in your current mental and physical state? The topic is likely what you think it’s about, but I’m taking a deeper and more candid look at holistic health and wealth as we progress in 2019. It will be fun, interactive, and informative. Each attendee will leave with some tangible resources/action plan with my promise to provide a follow up/check in for accountability. Just bring yourself and an open mind. Everything else will be provided. We’ll have food, fun, and fellowship!
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Date: February 23, 2019 Time: 11am to 1pm Location & Additional Info: Provided upon RSVP Cost: $20
Recently, I had the privilege of speaking on a tele-summit entitled, She is in You. My topic was “Girls Night-Investing In You”. My focus was to share with the listening audience about my experience with overcoming domestic violence and entertaining the idea of engaging in a romantic relationship again, but only AFTER I had truly learned to love myself and embrace me-flaws and all. I also had to find ways to invest in myself holistically.
I wanted to dispel the myth that you have to spend a lot of money in order to be happy or do things for yourself. Because February is known as love month, and specifically, Valentine’s Day, society equates gifts and fancy dinners as the ultimate displays of love and affection. For many, this month is quite dreaded. What if you don’t have a significant other? What if the significant other was your abuser? What if you don’t have the money to afford a spa day or night out on the town? It does not or should not make you or anyone else feel less important or significant. We should never measure our self worth on material things.
You can pamper yourself on a budget. For about $5, you can buy a box of finely ground scented bath salts, an aroma-scented candle, manicure set, cotton balls and nail polish from any Family Dollar, WalMart or Dollar General Store. Play the radio or download music to your phone, run a nice bath and relax. Have children? Establish some things for them to do while you’re pampering yourself and make sure they understand the boundaries of ‘mommy time’ or take some time for yourself before they go to school or after bed. Of course, not every situation works for everybody, but the point is, YOU must take some time out for YOU. In order to establish happy and healthy relationships with others, whether it be personal or professional, you must first make sure that you’re in a happy and healthy relationship with yourself.
In an ideal world, who wouldn’t want to have unlimited funding available to promote their products and services? After all, there’s approximately 7 billion people in the world. But, in the realistic business world where many upstarts (and even those who’ve been in business for awhile) may find themselves financially challenged, one must be strategically creative in how they go about marketing on a budget for maximum benefit. Here are a few ideas that may help when you have minimal to no additional funds for marketing yourself:
1. Utilizing social media/social sites. Every week, there seems to be another social media platform that can be used for exposure. While Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn continue to be among the front runners, social outlets such as Pinterest, Blab, Instagram and Periscope are quickly being recognized as useful and effective forms of reaching potential clients and supporters around the globe. The best part-all of these platforms are absolutely free.
2. Partner/Collaborate. There are two types of people to partner/collaborate with-those within your field and those completely opposite of it. Both will allow you to have a meeting of the minds to share ideas and be exposed to new audiences. Remember, even those who share similar skills will likely have their own niche, which is also true for you. And, those who operate in a completely different field may be connected to those that are in need of your services and vise versa.
3. Ask for help. Think about those who may have tangible resources that you could borrow or have donated to you for your particular business. Tangible resources could be anything from cash to office space and supplies. Consider those who you admire who may be able to offer some advice. You never know who may be willing to help if you don’t take a leap of faith and just ask.
I have often said that I enjoy being invited to any party but a pity party. I may decide to stop by and check it out for a few minutes Like and . However, I will never take off my coat or have a seat. I am not interested in making myself comfortable. Life is to be lived and enjoyed. When it’s not treating you fairly, or even if your experiences are in some way self inflicted, at what point do you stop pouting? I offer three other p’s to consider: pray, persevere and praise.
Pray: I truly believe that everyone needs to have some sort of spiritual foundation and be intentional about tapping into that foundation daily. It has truly been a saving grace for me. Read a bible, Q’uan, Daily Bread or any countless number of books from pastors or spiritual advisers from around the world. Practice daily and consistent prayer, meditation and chanting. Speak about the things that trouble you and express your needs, wants and desires. Pray for peace of mind, clarity and guided direction.
Persevere: You have to find ways to push through life’s frustrations, whatever they may be. I know that can be easier said than done, but it must be done. Focus on your why. I’ve talked about this before. Your why is the fuel that keeps you going when nothing else seems to matter. Money is a great motivator, but be specific about the money. For me, it was me verbalizing that I need money to pay my rent because I was tired of seeing eviction notices on my door every month. My children not having school uniforms or us not having transportation. My why continues to be all about stability. I don’t want to ever find myself worrying about what I’m going to eat or where I’m going to lay my head. So, I push though. I make the uncomfortable phone calls. I ask for support. I stay up late and get up early. I am consistent.
Praise: Be thankful for your experiences. I can assure you that someone wishes they had what you’re dealing with. I’ll take it a step further and say that you don’t want other people’s problems. Find ways to celebrate where you are, what you have, what you’ve done, who’s been there for you, etc. When you can find (sometimes it’s not as easy as others) the positives, it allows you to redirect your focus on what you need to do to change your situation. You’ll remember that person, place or thing that will give you just the push you need and recognize that as long as you have breath, you have life.
